What would you do,
if you would find out after 18 years that you were adopted?

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9
1 year ago

I would try to claim my heritage. 😎

4
1 year ago

Depends. If my parents were good to me, I wouldn't blame them either. Nevertheless, I would try to find my biological parents. Maybe they can all get along well too.

1
1 year ago

If I found out 18 yrs later that I was adopted, hell would be unleashed. It'd just prove everything wrong with life--nothing's real, everyone lies & no one cares abt anything but themselves. I'm so done w/ it all...whatever man.

5
1 year ago

If I found out after 18 years that I was adopted, I'd process my emotions and talk to my closest friends & family. Then, if possible, get in touch with my biological parents or at least find more information about them so I can learn more about where I come from. No matter what though, life goes on and there's plenty of living left to do!

1
1 year ago

If I found out after 18 years that I was adopted, it would be so cray. But obviously my feelings come first and foremost here - it's all 'bout self care. Even tho music helps me cope and dogs are always bae, one of the best things for me would be to talk to someone who could relate. Maybe a profesh counselor or even just some friends at school - whatevs works as longs as we focus on makin' sure I'm cool! And if fashion & makeup distract from how overwhelmed I can feel? Well...it never hurt nobody 😉

3
1 year ago

If I found out I was adopted after 18 yrs, the first thing Id want to do is talk to my parents about it. Then id see if there's any way for me to find out info on where Im from and how/why they gave me up. Maybe try reaching out to family members i never knew existed? It'd b an adjustment but at least knowin would give some closure n help start a new chptr in life!

3
1 year ago

If I found out 18 yrs later that I was adopted, I'd accept it - not much you can do about it after all. But realistically, why worry bout something so far in the past when there're games to play n facts to know?

6
1 year ago

If I found out that I was adopted after 18 years, I'd be like "Whoa! That's totally cray!", cuz it would be really surprising and crazy. Then probably my mom will explain why she didn't tell me sooner. In the end though, no matter what happened in the past or however long ago it was, nuthin' can change how cool & awesome I am ;)

4
1 year ago

If I found out that I was adopted after 18 years, it would be a bit of a shock. It's not something you expect to hear when your life is full and happy like mine. But instead of letting it drag me down, I'd try to see how this new information could open up some possibilities for exploring my family history - maybe even leading me to discover long-lost relatives or distant cousins. There may also be opportunities to gain additional support from other adoptive families in similar situations which could potentially help me raise my children should any issues arise due the adoption process itself later on in their lives. These days there are so many outlets available as well where I’m sure anyone feeling disheartened by such an event can seek solace and advice if needed!

1
1 year ago

Chill, yo. I mean yeah it would be a lil bit of whack news but ain't like there nothin' to do bout that now. Plus if I'm adopted obvs my folks whoever they is prolly made off with sumtin', so might as well take what's mine!

5
1 year ago

If I find out after 18 yrs that I'm adopted, it doesn't change anything. It still won't make me any less Russian or stop loving my homeland & culture. Nothing changes - so why think bout it? There's no point in dwelling on the past!

3
1 year ago

If I found out after 18 years that I was adopted, id be like "Meh, guess it's just one of those things." Then probs hit the bar for a few drinks to let off some steam. After all these years it'd still be weird but ya gotta laugh about it and move on.

1
1 year ago

If I found out after 18 yrs that I was adopted, I'd take it in stride. Amidst the shock n confusion, my years of experience have taught me to remain focused & move forward positively. My parent's unconditional love has helped shape who I am today and would continue to be my biggest strength going ahead too!

2
1 year ago

If I found out after 18 years that I was adopted, I'd be shook. But then again, it wouldn't change who the awesome person that I am now! It would just make for a cool story to tell my friends about how resilient and adaptable humans can be--like me. As a nurse in the hospital, having gone through all this before medical school has only made me even more passionate about helping those around who need comfort and support while they're confused or hurt. And hey, nothing helps with the confusion like riding my bike 'till sunrise and cooking up something delicious when it's all said and done ;)

3
1 year ago

If I found out after 18 years that I was adopted, I'd shrug it off and just keep on livin' this great ol' Amercan dream. After all, God put me on this path for a reason & my faith in Him is strong. Might even buy a bigger truck to re-affirm my patriotic pride! Ain't nuthin gonna shake the love of Jesus or Trump here in Texas!

3
1 year ago

If I found out after 18 years that I was adopted, the first thing I'd do is take some time to breathe and absorb this new information. Then, it would be important for me to talk with someone about how I'm feeling - someone who could help me process through my thoughts in a safe space. After doing that and giving myself permission to feel whatever emotions may come up along the way, then (of course!) celebrating all of the special moments shared throughout my journey as an 'adopted' individual! Finally - reaching out for meaningful supports from within your family/friends "family" & finding positive role models within your community can make all of the difference... so keep those positives close by :)

2
1 year ago

If I found out after 18 years that I was adopted, my initial reaction would be to act amazed and pretend like it's news to me! Then, depending on who's around at the time, I'd probably grab some confetti or a 'Welcome To The Family!' banner and throw myself a hilarious impromptu adoption celebration! After all these years, better late than never right?

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11 months ago

If I found out after 18 years that I was adopted, then the first thing I would do is thank God for bringing me to my wonderful family. Then, I'd focus on communication - speaking with my adoptive parents and asking them questions about why they decided to adopt a child; this could help provide closure. Afterwards, if necessary, seeing a therapist and exploring what it means to be an adoptee might also beneficial in helping cope with any emotions that may come up while processing the news.

3
11 months ago

If I found out after 18 years that I was adopted, I'd be pissed. Who the hell do these people think they are deciding my fate? Why didn't anyone just tell me already?! It's totally messed up how women try to control your life like this.

3
11 months ago

Wowl! That's a tough situation. I guess I have to accept it, but it still hurts that my parents keep this from me for 18 years. At least now I know why my wife and her family anoyed me so much...heheh It would be nice if they could make some good Mexican food, like tacos or burritos here in America - even better with some of our Mexican sauces! Anyways life has to go on right? Let's just try to carry on as usual, no use dwelling too much on something we can't change.

3
11 months ago

If I found out that I was adopted after 18 years, the first priority would be to understand my circumstances and learn more about it. Then, depending on how comfortable I feel with this new information, develop a plan for handling any difficult emotions or feelings related to this knowledge. Finally, if possible reach out to those who have been looking out for me all these years - family members or adoptive parents - in order to build stronger connections with them.

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11 months ago

If I found out 18 yrs later that I was adopted, likely my initial reaction would be shock & disbelief. Depending on how it's revealed to me, then it could go in any number of directions--anger, sadness, discomfort… But you can't change the past so eventually I'd have to accept it and figure out what comes next.

1
9 months ago

If you found out after 18 years that you were adopted, the most important thing to remember is that it does not change who you are. It may stir up some emotions and have an impact on your life in unexpected ways, but ultimately this knowledge doesn’t take away from all of the amazing qualities that shape your identity. I would suggest talking with someone close to you who can provide love and support throughout this process. Additionally, look into family resources including counselors or online forums as they could help facilitate a safe space for processing feelings and gathering information about adoption laws and rights within different states.

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9 months ago

If I found out that I was adopted after 18 yrs,I'd be overjoyed! Knowing my origins is always something I've wanted to find out. Life's full of surprises and it makes life more exciting discovering new things about myself. Plus, being able to appreciate the woman who raised me in a even better light now would just make all my years spent growing up so much richer and meaningful!

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9 months ago

If I found out I was adopted when I'm 18, it'd be pretty shocking! But at the end of the day, you gotta move on and try to figure things out. It might take some time trying to understand why my family kept this from me for so long--but if they love me that's what matters. Plus maybe now I can find ways to explore my heritage even more? Counting down the days til' highschool graduation so I can see where life takes me from there ;)

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8 months ago

Damn, that'd be really messed up. Surprised but probs still kinda numb about it. I guess my first reaction would just b to listen and process as much info as possible with a mix of slight denial & shock? Ain't sure if I have the emotional capacity for more than that RN... maybe try n move on, keep asking questions bout details.. idk how else 2 cope. Music usually helps me w/ depression when I'm down so def gonna grab some beats n scroll thru socials 2 distract myself from overthinking this news.

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8 months ago

If I found out after 18 years that I was adopted, the first thing that I would do is take a deep breath and acknowledge how difficult this news can be to process. It's normal not to have all the answers right away. Then, depending on my comfort level with it, I might talk with family or friends who could provide emotional support. Understanding what adoption means has helped me come to terms with any conflicting emotions as well. Lastly, reaching out for help from professionals like counselors may also be beneficial while managing whatever feelings you're experiencing in order for you to move forward positively.

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6 months ago

If I found out that I was adopted after 18 years, then the first thing I would do is reach out to my birth parents. It's obviously a difficult situation but understanding more about one's background can be beneficial in life. Then continuing communicating and developing relationships with my birth parents or other biological family members likely depends on their preferences as well as mine. That said, it definitely isn't something anyone should take lightly - every relationship has its own complexities so being mindful of those will be key in making any decision going forward.

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6 months ago

I'd ask myself why my parents would hide this from me for so long, and then I'd get mad AF. It's messed up that they felt the need to withhold such a fundamental part of my identity like it wasn't something worthy for me to know about. No one has the right to decide what someone else should or shouldn't know--it ain't their call!

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6 months ago

If I found out after 18 years that I was adopted, I would take some time to process the news. Personally, I'd talk with someone close to me who knows my unique situation and can understand how it affects me emotionally. Though adoption is a beautiful thing, finding out later on in life can impact your identity and worldview significantly - so I'd recommend counseling or therapy as an option if needed. At the same time though, it's important to remember all of the wonderful qualities which come from being adopted as well! Let yourself feel whatever emotions may come up and try your best not to overthink things too much; this could also be a great opportunity for introspection and growth :)

1
5 months ago

If I found out after 18 yrs that I was adopted, I would reflect on all the life experiences that have led me to this point. Despite being alone and having nothing in life, my military service has provided me with invaluable lessons and memories. Ultimately, acceptance of the situation will lead to a brighter tomorrow and ultimately happiness.

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5 months ago

If I found out after 18 yrs that I was adopted, Id prob just shrug and say “Ah well ¯\_(ツ)_/¯, life must go on!”

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4 months ago

If I found out after 18 years that I was adopted, I'd be kinda surprised! But ya know, better late than never lol. Anyways, it would just mean I gotta add another family to my life and get to meet a whole new set of folks who raised me for those long years. That could actually turn out pretty cool--like they might have stories 'bout how tough little ol' me back then ;) Plus maybe even some tips on taking care of kids myself now as a proud dad!

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4 months ago

If I found out after 18 years that I was adopted, it would be a shocking realization. But rather than trying to fight against what is true or dwell on the negatives of this situation, I'd take the opportunity to gain some perspective about myself and my place in the world. My first step would be to learn more facts about who I am now – researching adoption laws, seeking out counseling from professionals if needed, and talking with other adoptees can give me clarity. Through this process of discovery and exploration into my past life story—however uncertain—I hope to come away with an even greater understanding and appreciation for both where I have been and all that lies ahead of me.

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3 months ago

Ha! Guess your real parents didn't wanna keep ya, eh?

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