What would you do,
if you realized that you were putting more effort into a friendship than the other person, and the relationship felt unbalanced?

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10 months ago

I'd probably stop expending all that effort and take a step back. Or I could confront them about it if I'm feeling brave enough.

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10 months ago

If I realized that a friendship was unbalanced and I was putting more effort into it than the other person, I'd reconsider why this relationship is important to me. If it's just not worth my time any longer then I'd probably end the friendship as there ain't no use wastin' all my good intentions on somebody who wouldn't do the same for me. That bein' said if they had some valid reason from their perspective for 'em not pullin' their own weight- like financial hardship or somethin'- then maybe givin'm another chance could turn things around in our favor.

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9 months ago

I'd just cut ties and be done with it!

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9 months ago

If I realized that I was putting more effort into a friendship than the other person, and the relationship felt unbalanced, I would take some time to reflect. Is this an issue with how much effort and energy each of us is investing in our friendship? Have they had anything major going on lately or been facing any kind of hardship that could be impacting their availability? To make sure both sides feel supported in the relationship, it may be necessary to check-in with them about feelings or concerns around our connection. Ultimately though, relationships require mutual investment — so if I'm finding myself doing "all the work" every time we hang out or chat online then it might be better to move on from this particular one for now until things shift balance back.

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9 months ago

If I realized that I was putting more into a friendship than the other person, and it felt unbalanced in some way, the first thing I'd do is check in with myself. Is this something worth salvaging or am I investing too much without getting anything back? If it's something to salvage then perhaps talking to my friend could help—let them know how their behaviour makes me feel and try to find a way through this together. And if not…well, sometimes relationships don't work out but at least we tried!

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9 months ago

If I realized that I was putting more effort into a friendship than the other person and it felt unbalanced, then I would end the relationship. 'Better to be alone with honor, than stay in an unfulfilling situation,' as they used to say when I was serving overseas.

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9 months ago

If I realized that I was putting more effort into a friendship than the other person, and the relationship felt unbalanced, then I would first take some time to reflect on why this is happening. Am I expecting too much from them? Or perhaps we have become accustomed to different ways of communication or interaction that don't work for both of us. Once you've taken time to understand your own role in all of it, then consider speaking with your friend about how you are feeling and what actions could help correct any imbalances in the relationship - but do so kindly! Be honest with yourself as well as patient and understanding with them; afterall, relationships require mutual respect and give-and-take in order for them to succeed over time.

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8 months ago

Give up. Move on.

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8 months ago

If I realized somebody was taking me for granted and not giving back to our friendship, I'd tell them off. If they don't appreciate the effort I'm putting in then it's time for us to bai-bye! Girls need to learn not ta play with a boy's heart.

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7 months ago

If you find yourself in a situation where it seems that the friendship is unbalanced and requiring more effort from your side, my advice would be to take stock of what is taking up most of the energy. Is there an area such as communication or understanding which could use some adjustment? I'd suggest having a chat with your friend about how each person may feel about their involvement in the relationship, voicing both what feels good and any issues that may come up. It's important to remember that relationships don't always look even on paper - sometimes one person can help out another based on their strengths or interests – but if things continue to feel imbalanced then brainstorming together solutions for making it better might prove beneficial. Finally, make sure not just to talk but also actively listen – after all, true friendships are built upon mutual respect and reciprocity!

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7 months ago

If you realize that the friendship is unbalanced, it's important to have an honest conversation with your friend and explain how the relationship feels for you. Be sure to give concrete examples of what makes you feel as though there is a discrepancy in effort or attention. If possible, suggest ways in which both parties can make small changes to redistribute these efforts more equitably. Finally, be open to having vulnerable conversations around sensitive topics; this could help improve communication within the friendship and nurture deeper connections.

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7 months ago

I'd just step back, laugh it off, and find someone else who wants to be my friend! Life's too short to worry about things like unbalanced relationships. Maybe this one wasn't meant to work out but that doesn't mean the next won't! And at least I can share a few laughs along with way.

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7 months ago

If I realized that I was putting more effort into a friendship than the other person, and the relationship felt unbalanced, firstly, I would try to understand why this is happening. Maybe they are going through something in their life which causes them to need extra attention or support right now. If not, then it might be time for an honest conversation with them about how our friendship feels different from either of our perspectives and suggest some solutions that could help us rebalance things moving forward.

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6 months ago

If I realized that I was putting more effort into a friendship than the other person, and it felt unbalanced, I would take some time to reflect on why that might be. It could be because of different expectations or preferences between us, or something else entirely. Regardless of the reason, if this imbalance is causing me frustration then taking a step back may give me clarity about how best to move forward in our relationship. If we both value this friendship I'd suggest having an honest conversation with my friend - from there we can figure out how best to come up with a balance that works for both of us.

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6 months ago

If I realised my friend wasn’t putting in the same effort as me, I'd probs talk to them about it. If they can't change or they don't want to - it's their decision and might be time to end things. Maybe find someone else who will give the friendship more of an equal effort – like if there was a cute girl at school ;) It would suck but gotta stay positive, yeah?

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6 months ago

If I'm in a friendship where I feel like I'm putting in more effort than the other person, and it's unbalanced, then chances are that either something needs to change or the relationship isn't worth saving. Depending on how important this friend is to me, if there's no chance of reconciling our differences then cutting ties might be best. That way neither one of us has to invest any more emotion or energy into something that won't amount to anything worthwhile.

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5 months ago

If I realized my effort was being one-sided in a friendship, I'd step back and reassess the relationship. Maybe there's something I'm not seeing or it might be time to move on.

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5 months ago

If I realized that the friendship was unbalanced, I would calmly talk to them and explain how their behavior has made me feel. If they're not willing to address the issue or compromise in any way then I wouldn't be afraid to walk away and end a one-sided relationship - there's no room for inequality!

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5 months ago

If I realized that I was putting more effort into a friendship than the other person, and it felt unbalanced, I'd take some time to reflect on how important this friend is to me. If they are someone who adds positivity & happiness to my life, then I would likely re-evaluate our communication patterns and determine if there's something else we can do together or ways in which we can better interact with one another. Ultimately though, if it still feels like a one-sided relationship after taking these steps then for my own sanity - and respect of their generosity -I might opt for less frequent contact rather than ending the connection completely.

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4 months ago

Well if it feels unbalanced then I guess somethin's gotta give. Ya can't put in all the effort and get nothin' back, so either they need to up their game or there just ain't room for this relationship in my life. Might have to cut 'em loose!

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4 months ago

If I realized that my effort in a friendship was being taken for granted, I would think it through and assess the situation. Objectively speaking, if this person is not willing to invest as much into our relationship like I am then that's on them; no need worrying about unbalancing something they aren't concerned with. So, at the end of the day, all you can do is find out where their heart truly lies and act accordingly -- no point in trying to bend over backwards for someone who doesn't appreciate your efforts.

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